The Marriage "Gene"

The Marriage "Gene" By W. Michael McCormack

For the first two-hundred years of America's history, marriage was seen as the union of one man and one woman. During the last thirty years or so, that idea of marriage has come under attack by those who would redefine or abolish it.

In recent years, the homosexual "community" has mounted a full scale assault on traditional marriage. Never mind that societies throughout human history have considered it foundational. Thousands of years ago, the Greek philosopher Cicero wrote, "The first bond of society is marriage."

Civil unions were the first step. Several liberal leaning states decided that it was unfair to deny spousal benefits to homosexual couples. They created it first in the place most likely to succeed, government. Governmental agencies are mostly made of steady-eddies who are afraid to make waves that may splash over their pretty, pension-padded prows.

Next, the challenge came to make homosexual marriage State Law, which was done in several states. Now the slippery slide is gaining momentum into other states where the dominos are beginning to fall.

While the war rages and the sleeping majority snore on, a thought occurred to me. Could there be, in effect, a marriage gene? After all, for decades we have observed that when a homosexual couple "hooks-up" there is always a dominant and a submissive. In the lesbian world they have a name for the dominant one, "butch" and for the submissive, "betty". And there are male homosexual euphemisms too; the "hammer" and the "nail" among others. There never seems to be total equality; macho and macho or femme and femme. There is always the macho and the femme when it comes to couples. There are many, many homo couples who even get married in traditional marriage dress; the dominant in tuxedo and the submissive in a white wedding gown. Hmmm.

Why should it come as a surprise to the rest of us that they want to get married? It seems that we all have a marriage "gene" that God has planted in our spirits that provokes our inner hearts to want to be married. The difference with homosexuals is that they have chosen the selfish marriage.

The selfish marriage is one where my spouse wants sex about as often as I do, so we can dispense with growing together through spirit and heart bonding and just get it on when we both want to; never stretching our psyches and being patient with our spouse; just having someone to masturbate against.

The selfish marriage is one where we seldom have to “stop and figure out” what our spouse is thinking because they mostly think just like us. It is a lazy, comfort zone way of life.

The selfish marriage is one where our familial education is frozen in time because we have no children to teach us how we were- or ought to be- and how powerful the bond of love becomes through struggle and learning as they grow up.

The selfish marriage is one where we can become our own god and the master of our fate. A community of relational midgets; following our desires and sacrificing nothing meaningful for others; our main motivation in life to legitimize our selfishness with wedding rings and toast to our hard-won victory.

But, there they are, the selfish ones, crowding city halls to get a "selfish marriage" license.

Is it all their fault? Not completely. They are victims of the Selfish Prince. He "is a lion who walks about, seeking whom he may devour."

As Alan Sears and Craig Osten ask us in their book, The Homosexual Agenda, "Are we willing to share Christ's love with a person trapped in homosexual behavior, or will we simply walk by them like the Levite and the priest on the road to Jericho and not offer a helping hand?"

Real marriage, a marriage between a man and a woman is tough! It involves self-sacrifice, humility, perseverance, and GROWTH. The victims of homosexuality need to be told. Yes, I think there is a marriage "gene" in our spirits. It comes from the God of family; the triune God who created us to enjoy His family and created family so we would realize what true joy in a complete family looks like. If homosexuals only knew that they confirm that fact every time they sign a marriage license and walk down the aisle.